So, some of you may have noticed the absence of my post yesterday and some of you may not have. I meant to have a post ready on Tuesday night to publish but the day got away from me, and Wednesday, I was away from home the entire day.
After asking for post inspiration in my last post [HERE], and receiving a very nice comment from an anonymous reader named Kitty, I decided to start this new, and if all goes well, by-weekly series called "Why I"! My first post in this series is inspired by Kitty's comment, some of her questions are as follows:
-Talk about modesty standards. I am strangely fascinated hearing about other girls' ideas on what's modest, haha. Maybe because it varies so much? For one person, 'modest' is right-above-the-knee shorts, for another it's floor length skirts. What are your modesty standards? What are Cassie's? What are your parent's rules on this topic? How should one go about developing their standards? These are all questions I'd love to see you answer in a post on this!
-What are your thoughts on makeup/beauty stuff. Like, what makes piercings, make up, hair dye, etc. overly vain vs. 'just enhancing your natural beauty'?
Well Kitty, I am here today to answer some, if not all, of your ponderings!
There have been many blog posts written on modesty, why it is important, or why some people feel it isn't. But not on our blog! While we have definitely stated some of our personal guidelines and beliefs on the subject, much to my chagrin, there has never been a post devoted solely to telling you our complete thoughts regarding the issues mentioned above. I plan to fix that today. ;-)
While this is obviously something near and dear to our hearts, we have been hesitant to speak out on it thus far because of the sensitivity many, many girls hold for this subject. The subject being how we should dress, and if it is indeed important to our Heavenly Father, or matters to Him at all.
First off, Cassie and I agree almost completely on what I am about to say, but I am perhaps a bit more straight-forward and black-and-white, so, do not assume what I say goes exclusively for her and I.
(My!) Basic "Rules":
- If a skirt is too tight is the rear, I choose either to wear a tunic with it, or forgo wearing it altogether.
- My skirts always go to below the knee, and I wear leggings with them if they are that short.
- If a skirt is sheer, I wear a slip with it, no matter if it's 120* out or not. [Which it never is.] ;-P :-D
- I never wear just one layer, I wear a tanktop or a cap sleeve t-shirt under every blouse, sweater, or dress.
- Generally, I do not use the '3 fingers down from the collarbone' approach, I just wear high necklines.
- I don't wear body-hugging shirts. [There is a difference between fitted and a sausage casing!]
- I don't wear pants as I believe they are not as modest as most skirts, and that since men wear pants, women should dress differently. [Deuteronomy 22:5]
- I restrict myself from wearing shirts that draw attention to the bust line. [e.g. words across the front, low v-neck, etc.]
Her next question was,"What are Cassie's?" Well, I can tell you they are similar, but as I said before, we are different.
Our parent's rules are much less strict than ours, but they encourage us to keep our own convictions strong! For instance, our little sisters are not made to wear only skirts, but are not allowed to wear sleeveless shirts out of the house. And rules do get more specific as they get older. :-)
I believe how one should go about developing their own standards is simple [as I told you, I am a black-and-white kind of person]. Search the scriptures for what God considers immodest, though, if you look for that exact word, you will not find an overwhelming result as the words modest and immodest only appear a handful of times in His Word. Instead, try to find instances where God compares nakedness to shame, but is pleased by modest actions, both in heart and dress. Truthfully, the Bible doesn't really give precise instructions for how to dress, so, it can be frustrating [to me anyway] when trying to represent *my side of the case. (*That we should dress modestly, and in particular, not wear pants.) But, the Scriptures do tell us that we should be different from the world and in everything we do, please Yahweh [Romans 12:2 and 1 Corinthians 10:31]. I personally believe when it says everything, it means everything. So, if you believe conforming to the world in how you dress doesn't really matter, *shrug*. I got nothing else to say. :-) I've come to realize, no matter how much I try, I can't change people's minds, and I am not the Holy Spirit. I can only bring the matter to your attention and hopefully you'll follow up with some heart and Scripture searching.
Kitty's next question was what my thoughts are on makeup\beauty stuff, and also, some more super touchy subjects, piercings and hair-dyeing. As usual, I am not quite sure where to start... Okay, I'll start with what my pure opinions are, the ones that I don't have backed up word-for-word with Bible verses. I think that we shouldn't pierce our flesh if we wish to please our Heavenly Father with our body. There is in fact a reference though, (that I don't believe directly applies, but is still interesting) from Leviticus 19:28,“Ye shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor print any marks upon you: I am the Lord.” Yes, this is from the Old Testament. But, I believe God's rules and statutes are unchanging. Much like mine, hahaha! Except I am wrong a lot and He never is! :-D
On to the subject of dyeing your hair. Again, my opinion first. I don't believe I will ever dye my hair. And frankly, I think it's vain and worldly to do so. Listen closely, I did NOT say God loves you less, or that I am the perfect example of what a Christian female should look like. I said I think it's vain and worldly to dye your hair. Why? you ask. Because if God had wanted you to have platinum blond hair, you would have been born with it. We take everything far too lightly nowadays, we need to start putting more thought into what we do.
Picking up where I left off on the "if God would have wanted you that way He would have made you that way" note, I believe makeup is evil. *Just kidding* Scared you for a second there didn't I? Haha! What I do believe about makeup though is that... [this may surprise you] I. Don't. Know. Yes, you've finally found the one topic I don't have a set-in-stone opinion on! I've read books on why we shouldn't wear makeup, I've told myself it doesn't matter as long as you use it in moderation, and I'll admit, I like wearing makeup. But I also hate it. I like it because, yeah, it makes me look prettier! I hate it because when I do wear it (pretty rarely) I am constantly hoping nothing is running, wearing off, or spread on too thick. And honestly, no one has ever made me feel like it's worth it. I get compliments whether I woke up feeling ugly or not! I could spend 20 minute perfectly covering blemishes and not get a "you look nice today", or I could go fresh-faced with a smile and hear that encouraging phrase anyway! Since I don't really have an opinion to present you with, I will continue giving you my thoughts. Thought number 1: who are we wearing it for? Thought number 2: why are we wearing it for them? Ladies, lets admit that we mostly wear makeup to look better for guys... I mean really... who cares if your girlfriends like how you look? ;-P But then why would we want them to not see the real us? If you are pursuing a Godly relationship, it will most likely end in marriage and what woman gets up an hour early so her husband doesn't see the bags under her eyes? Ummmmmm, can I get a no one?? Hahaha! So... my ramblings do have a point. Since when does what God made need enhancing? I believe His exact words were,"It is good."
Everything I've said can pretty much be summed up in this one quote, dress to please God, not men.
Well Kitty, I certainly hope I've answered your questions and fulfilled your expectations!
I have been writing this post off-and-on all day y'all, and now I have to go pick out my wedding day outfit! No. I am not getting married tomorrow. :-( :-D But I am photographing a wedding! *yay*
Please remember to comment a subject you'd like to see covered in the "Why I" series, thank you!
What is your personal dress code?
What topic would you like to see me discussing next in the "Why I" series?
Do you believe God cares about modesty?
Dressing for His glory,